And so it has come to this: I feel the need to point out that dads change diapers and read parenting-related articles just like moms do.
I’m not an uptight guy. Despite how I may have portrayed myself a while back, I really don’t get ruffled by what, in my personal view, is the small stuff. I’m not bothered by other people and their choice of parenting styles, so long as it doesn’t affect my kids. Helicopter parent? Hover away. Tiger Parent? Roar away. Positive parenting person? That’s super! Good for you! I do my best to subscribe to the CTFD Method as often as possible– not just as it relates to parenting, but in most all aspects of life. So it shouldn’t come as much of a surprise that I don’t really get bent up when advertisements and TV shows lay all the responsibility for parenting upon moms.
There are, however, two parenting-related areas that really irk me.
The first is a business puts a changing table in the women’s restroom but doesn’t have one in the men’s room. Moms aren’t the only ones who have to change diapers. My kids are equal opportunity shitters, so I prefer a non-disgusting, non-floor-type-place to change them when the time arises. Fortunately, I’ve found these days that changing table-less men’s rooms are few and far between, and when you bring it to the attention of the people in charge of the business, they just might act on it.
@mattnorman27 It’s been ordered! Thanks for feedback.
— Hat Creek Burger Co. (@HatCreekBurgers) July 28, 2013
.@mattnorman27, we couldn’t do it without you — thanks again for the input! 🙂
— Hat Creek Burger Co. (@HatCreekBurgers) July 29, 2013
The second bit I take issue with is so-called “mom sections,” particularly in newspapers and magazines. I’m not talking about articles that deal with topics are are truly mom-centric. I don’t really care to read about breast pumps and nipple soreness and all the stuff that, thankfully, only moms have to deal with. (Not that we dads don’t empathize, it’s just that moms are the ones who have first-hand knowledge of what works best for your body and whatnot.) So I was discouraged yesterday when my local paper, the Austin American-Statesman, carried an online section of syndicated articles titled “Just For Moms.” Here are a few screenshots of articles offered in this one-sided section:
Call me crazy, but I think any of these articles would be interesting to both moms AND dads. What’s really most troubling to me is that the Statesman felt the need to include this “Just For Moms” section in its online edition when it has a perfectly great, equal opportunity parenting section: Raising Austin.
In the end, I realize these aren’t earth-shattering issues and that there are bigger things going on in the world today. Maybe I need to follow my own adopted philosophy and CTFD. Or maybe the easiest step for everyone involved would be to give dads the benefit of the doubt and businesses should assume that we change diapers and care to read about parenting-related stories, too.
Tomorrow’s Austin American-Statesman headline:
Semi-update: Just for fun, and because I like to think one man’s non-retweeted, non-replied-to, non-favorited tweet can make a difference:
— Matt Norman (@mattnorman27) August 3, 2014
Today, after a pretty extensive search, the “Just for Moms” section is gone.